Basic Steps to Self Acceptance
Detect ungratefulness toward God
Make a list of all the changes you would like to make in your appearance, abilities, family or social heritage. Correct what you can and list benefits for what you cannot change. For instance if you tend to be sloppy in your appearance then iron your clothes or stop leaving them in the dryer or maybe you should buy a few nice pants and shirts so your appearance is better.
Thank God for the things you wanted to change but cannot.
See how those features you are unable to change are actually building the message God wants in your life.
Put yourself back on “God's Easel” and purpose to cooperate with Him in developing inward qualities.
Memorize the qualities God wants to develop in you.
(Matthew 5:1-12) And seeing the multitudes, he went up into a mountain, and when he was set down, his disciples came unto him. And opening his mouth, he taught them, saying: Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are the meek: for they shall possess the land. Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
Blessed are they that hunger and thirst after justice: for they shall have their fill. Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy. Blessed are the clean of heart: for they shall see God. Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called children of God. Blessed are they that suffer persecution for justice' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are ye when they shall revile you, and persecute you, and speak all that is evil against you, untruly, for my sake: Be glad and rejoice, for your reward is very great in heaven. For so they persecuted the prophets that were before you.
Listed are these qualities God looks for in our lives
- The Poor in spirit
- The Meek
- They that mourn
- They that hunger and thirst after justice
- The merciful
- Clean of heart
- Those who are persecuted for justice sake.
Here is more.
(Galatians 5:22-24) But the fruit of the Spirit is, charity, joy, peace, patience, benignity, goodness, longanimity, Mildness, faith, modesty, continency, chastity. Against such there is no law. And they that are Christ' s, have crucified their flesh, with the vices and concupiscences.
Make a word study of each quality in both these scriptures . Write down all the possible synonyms, (word or phrase that means exactly or nearly the same as another word or phrase in the same language.) and antonyms (a word opposite in meaning to another). List the circumstances that God may use to develop these Christ like characteristics in areas of your life.
Remember that one of the many purposes for dedicating yourself to having these Christ like characteristics in your life is that others may see Christ working in you and to convert! But until you convert, others will more than likely ignore Christ and His Church.
Here is a link to a web site that may help you in your word study.